Michelle Yeoh is filled with motherhood and feeling like she “failed” life.
The Wicked star, during a conversation with BBC Radio 4’s Woman’s Hour, disclosed her point of view about infertility.
“I think the worst moment to go through is every month you feel like such a failure. It wasn’t for lack of trying, because I have always, and still do, loved babies.”
The Everything Everywhere All at Once star clarified, “I believe that it’s a woman’s choice. It’s your choice whether you want to have children, and it shouldn’t be imposed on you… but I always wanted to have children.”
Yeoh shared how much she suffered because of infertility. Her first marriage with Sir Dickson Poon, in 1988, was ended in 1992.
“When I was married the first time, that was very clear in our path, that this was a marriage about having children, next generation, and all that,” she said, and went on to say the eventual breakdown of the relationship was “heartbreaking” but necessary.
“You also have to understand, these are conversations that you really have to have with yourself and be able to look ahead and think, Yes, we love each other very much now, but in 10 years or 20 years, I still can’t give him the family that he craves for,” Yeoh said.
“And you have to be fair sometimes, that’s why these dialogues between a couple is so important. If one wants [something] and the other doesn’t, this is something you have to face right at the beginning, because along the way, there will be a lot of hurt… so I think it was very brave on our path to admit, to say, ‘Okay, let’s not drag this out.’”
“I’m 62. Of course I’m not going to have a baby right now, but the thing is we just had a grandchild,” she continued. “Then you feel you’re still very, very blessed because you do have a baby in your life.”
She added, “I think at some point you stop blaming yourself. I go, there are certain things in your body that doesn’t function in a certain way. That’s how it is… You just have to let go and move on. And I think you come to a point where you have to stop blaming you.”
